In the past I have said I don't like New Year's Resolutions. In my opinion, making a resolution is a guarantee to fail, because it is puts undue pressure on oneself. Plus, if you want to improve yourself, just do it. No "resolution" is needed. I am not saying it will not be difficult. We can all improve, right? Here I go again, making resolutions against my own principles that I should not--Baring all my weaknesses here. But, I am going to take this not so much as a resolution, but rather things I could improve upon.
Here are my suggestions for myself, so I can be better in 2012:
1. Pray. Pray formally, in private, without failing, twice a day, and pray formally with the family twice a day. Along with prayer at meal times that will make seven times a day--a holy number. Every time my routine changes a little, it is difficult to keep prayer consistent.
2. Exercise three times a week--Join a gym with childcare! I think about getting exercise all the time, but unless I can get away from the kids, it's not going to happen. I also feel bad about leaving them with my husband when he gets off work, because he has already had a long day and me too. It would be better if I could go earlier in the day and have someone keep the kids.
3. Eat better - In line with the previous resolution, eat smaller, controlled portion sizes and only eat when I really feel hungry. Delicious holiday food is really hard to eat moderately. I always get to thinking I need to watch portions during this time. ;-)
4. T.V. Habits - Stop allowing the children to watch so much T.V. - Stop using the T.V. as a crutch. Usually the kids watch T.V. first thing in the morning before everyone is ready to do anything else. And they watch T.V. around lunch time while I put the baby down for a nap. The T.V. is the only thing that keeps them quiet and occupied while I lay her down and she falls asleep. Then I let them watch for an hour or so and I get time to make lunch for everyone and eat my own lunch in peace. But, I would like to see them go more days without T.V. at all, or only during quiet time. I would like to figure out what to do with the kids when I need them to be quiet.
5. Date my husband. I really miss one-on-one time with my best friend. I could spend every minute of every day with him and never be tired of him. :-) As it is, we spend a lot of time with each other, but hardly ever without the kids. Therefore, much of the time we are together we are pre-occupied and stressed. We need some stress free time together.
6. Quiet time with God--Write an Icon that is not a child's icon. This longing never goes away. I guess I need to spend less time on the computer, or something. Perhaps all those books I am reading will have to wait a little longer.
7. Patience without yelling, anger or spanking, even when I am tired, stressed and not feeling well. Alex is older and can be reasoned with, I have seen a lot of improvement in behavior by remaining calm and working through whatever behavior problem. I need to be conscientious about how I treat ALL the people in my life. I need to treat everyone with kindness, gentleness, respect and cheer. These are the traits I am trying to teach my children.
With a lot of these I need my husband's cooperation and support. I think I have an important conversation forthcoming with my other half.